1. Lord…" (1 Cor. 11:31-32).  "For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth…." (Heb. 12:6).
2. When things are going well for us, we are not easily motivated to self-examination, but when a major conflict arises, we have the most effective motivation to search out the inner motives, actions, words, and attitudes of our hearts.  "The spirit of man is the candle of the Lord, searching all the inward parts of the belly" (Proverbs 6:23).  Whoso loveth instruction loveth knowledge: but he that hateth reproof is brutish" (Proverbs 12:1).


II. The Benefit if New Insights in Scripture.
1. Large portions of scripture will never be meaningful to us unless we go through the experiences for which give insight.
2. It was for this reason that God allowed his servants in Scripture to experience conflicts, and it is for this very reason that we go through conflicts as well.
3. Proverb 1:23 "Turn you at my reproof: behold, I will pour out my spirit unto you, I will make know my words unto you".
4. Even though David knew that his conflicts were a result of his own sin, he was able to say, "It is good for me this I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes" Ps. 119:71.
5. Our next step should be to read the chapter of Proverbs each day that corresponds to the month, asking God to reveal new principles which we can apply to our particular problem.
6. A third step should be to read biographies in Scripture and to visualize these persons' circumstances in the light of what we are now experiencing.
7. "There hath no temptation taken you but as such as is common to man…" I Cor. 10:13.  Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us" Heb. 12:1. 


III. The Benefit of Unifying the Family.
1. The very foundation of the Church, as well as the nation, is the family.